It only takes a minute to start bonding with your new baby Published March 27, 2008 By Joyce Atlee Family Advocacy Outreach Manager TINKER AIR FORCE BASE -- "The first month of life is critical to creating a good parent/child relationship that will last a lifetime." said New Parent Support Program nurse Lisa Dunson. One of the essential building blocks of attachment is responding to all crying and meeting the child's needs. The old fashioned theory of "let him cry it out," has been proven harmful in the long run. It is impossible to "spoil" a baby by picking him up when he cries. "Crying is a baby's only form of communication," Dunson emphasized. "When you respond to a crying baby, you show him that when he asks for something, he'll get it. This makes a baby feel safe and secure, and forms a trusting relationship between the parent and the baby. The more babies are held in the first 6 months," Dunson said, "the more independent and secure they'll be as toddlers." A baby given that security early on is able to confidently explore his environment and is willing to experience new things and learn about his world. Holding and different kinds of physical contact go a long way to form a strong bond, and maintaining good eye contact is essential. Parents have no shortage of opportunities to interact with their babies. Feeding can be a wonderful opportunity to hold your baby, gaze into her eyes, and talk to her. Dunson said that in the first month, the average newborn is fed 360 times! Never feed by propping a baby bottle and walking away. Not only is there a risk of choking, but you will lose a fantastic opportunity to develop your infant's attachment to you. "Let Daddy get involved in feeding as often as possible," Dunson urged. "Babies need to bond with both parents." Other kinds of tactile stimulation, such as massaging your baby, contribute to that connection. The Infant Massage class offered monthly by Family Advocacy can help parents feel comfortable touching their babies and increase attachment. Parents bring their children (under 12 months) to class and watch as the instructors demonstrate techniques. Then, using a special apricot-scented infant massage oil, parents practice the soothing movements on the babies. "It's a relaxing time for parent and child." To learn more, or to sign up for class, call 734-4390.